Adult Supervision for Older Children
Older children have learned the social skills that will keep them safe. They know that sharing is right, they know that they shouldn’t talk to or go off with a stranger, they know that becoming violent with others is wrong and much more. This knowledge means that as older children play there is not an overwhelming concern for their safety, so parents do not need to directly supervise older children at all times. Allowing children to play in the garden while a parent stays in the house, for example, is usually fine with older children. However, parents should consistently check on children aged eight and above as they play, and a sneaky inquiry as to the score of a game will mask the real reason for the visit.

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Children aged eight and above have mastered a variety of physical, social and cognitive skills. They have a certain degree of mastery of their gross and fine motor skills as well as general coordination and can often understand more complex rules and concepts in their play. These skills, when taken altogether, mean that older children may be well suited to work on manageable projects either alone or with friends. Projects should be of interest to children, and parents should take care to offer help or companionship while their children work. Many older children enjoy:
- Cooking – following a recipe through until a meal is on the table (parents should supervise if children will be working with heat, electricity or sharp objects).
- Puzzles – working piece by piece until a coherent whole emerges.
- Sewing or knitting – working with a pattern until something beautiful is made.
- Reading series books – following favourite characters through a variety of events.
- Playing board games – following the rules to emerge the winner (or good loser).
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Playing with Friends
Older children have a set of social skills that will allow them not simply to refrain from becoming violent or abusive with others (they know that hitting, kicking, throwing, stealing, etc. is wrong) but also to play cooperatively (take turns, follow rules, share, etc.). As older children edge towards the “tween” and teen years, most will stop delighting in imaginary play and enjoy more structured activities when they are with friends. Parents can offer these activities such as by:
- Inviting children and their friends to the cinema with them.
- Offering to take children and friends to a water-park or pool.
- Hosting a video game or board game tournament for children and friends.
- Take children and friends to a local arcade.
- Encourage children to host a sleepover for friends.
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